There's a lot that comes with being a Marine wife. You have to understand the Marine Corps 'way'. You have to remember you are representing not only yourself but also your husband. And we would never want to make our husband's lives any worse! Here are some tips for living the Marine Corps way.
1) Utilize the L.I.N.K.S. course. No it's not mandatory, and yes most of it's common sense. But a lot of wives can benefit from this. It includes tips, history, and expectations. You may think the Marine Corps has stupid rules but they are there for a reason. They want us to portray to society a sense of accomplishment and composure. Yes, dress appropriately when on base, in the Commissary, going to the Naval hospital, etc. Yes, follow traditions and customs of the Marine Corps. Yes, treat your neighbors with respect and treat them how you want to be treated. Be loyal, honest, and committed. Leave the high school drama in your home town. And remember your manners. You are representing your family, especially when in the company of his commanding officers. It's just a reminder of how you are expected to act. Most of this comes with age, but as we all know, if you're over 18 you have no excuse not to act appropriate.
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2) When you arrive at a new duty station, make friends. It doesn't matter if its 2 or 20. Don't be afraid to get to know other wives, girl friends, or even civi's you meet. At some time, everyone struggles with moving away from family and friends. The easiest way to cope with this is to surround yourself with good friends. It's trial and error with other 'Marine Sisters'. Sometimes you are going to meet a girl and it's just not going to work out. And that's OK! But if you don't try you have no reason to complain about how horrible it is. Usually this results in girls bad mouthing the base they were stationed at, and giving other's the wrong outlook on it, just because of their experience and "not having fun". Stay in touch with family and friends from home, meet new people, and keep a positive outlook on your new home. Everything gets better with time and you can change your situation.
3) REMEMBER, every one's experience in the MC IS DIFFERENT. When you give advice, keep in mind it, may be different than what that wife actually goes through. You are just giving advice, basically reiterating what you went through. This applies to a lot of situations. Every unit is different. Things can change from year to year. You'll see girls argue that someone else's information isn't correct, when maybe it was when they went through it! Basically, make your own judgements when you go through it but keep open views when girls give you advice or when you're giving advice. After time, you'll realize on the Facebook support sites, it's just easier to stay out of some conversations.
To Be Continued... :)