Getting settled in

I feel like I'm neglecting my blog, haha! We've been so busy with moving and everything that I completely forgot about it. 

Well let's see... we finally moved all our furniture from Ohio! TMO is a little bit of a pain, if anyone would like any info on it, I'd be happy to share my experience and tips :) It was a rough ride back to NC in the moving truck. We got the 26 foot diesel and it was like riding in a semi. It was a fun trip back though. We laughed and joked around a lot. Poor Pat had to drive the whole way though. I felt bad but I couldn't drive that big truck, I have horrible depth perception and distance judgement as it is lol. Love him to death! We got some of the stuff out of the truck and in the apartment the next day and then his friend came, with his roomie, and helped Pat with all the furniture. It was a really exhausting 2 days, but I was so happy to finally be able to sleep in the bed and not on the air mattress. The furniture fits well in the apartment and all the rooms, this apartment is actually pretty big. Bigger than the apartments back home. Pat's bedroom set and king size bed are large pieces, and we still have enough room in our bedroom so that it doesn't feel claustrophobic! In the spare bedroom we put my twin size bed and dresser and there's even more room to move around. I actually really like this apartment. I don't know if I'll want to move when the lease is up. Which we have to decide what we're going to do because Pat will be deployed when the lease is up and I'm not moving all this stuff myself and then choose an apartment and have him come home and hate the new one. He's so picky. That's why we need to choose things together. I told him to just renew the lease now. 

Hmmm what else.... Pat's in the field for a week. :( It sucks without him. This just puts into perspective how bad its going to suck when he's deployed. Not looking forward to it. We don't know when his leave is for Christmas yet. That kinda sucks, since it's really close!


I need to find a job but my car isn't here yet... yes after months of waiting for it, my mother screws me. I could punch her. She's so sneaky and manipulative and has to be in control of everything!!! Ughhhhhh. I told her I didn't get in an accident and 'almost' die for her to get a new f'cking car. She screwed me good though. If you've read my other posts about the car situation, I'm pretty sure I mentioned how the money was in the bank to pay for the repair bill. (And mom's on it and the account is secured in a way neither of us can touch the money unless we both sign off on it) Okay, and then Dad and I came to an agreement that I  would pay half back to him ($2500) Well what did Mom do when she went to pay the bill??? USED HER OWN DAMN MONEY INSTEAD OF THE MONEY IN THE BANK ACCOUNT. So guess who I owe now. MY MOTHER and she wants the FULL BILL PAID BACK. Which ended up being $5300. Yes, I realize I own the car and I can call the police but honestly do you think I'd do that to my own family member? No. Plus knowing her, she'll end up letting me keep the 5000 in that bank account. But I don't care, I don't want to owe her anything! Plus I can't fucking pay her 5300 anytime soon, so guess who's driving my damn car, HER! And I can't get a damn job if I don't have a damn car in NC. I'm so pissed. She can be such a bitch. And to make everything worse, I'm in credit card debt and I have an opportunity to get out of it. Since I left my job in Ohio, I can cash out my 401k which was pretty padded for that last 5 years, and I can get out of debt. BUT I'm afraid of the tax penalties and other penalties. But everyone keeps telling me just do it. I'm young enough where it won't matter and I need to get out of the credit card interest that's burying me. But then I have mom freaking out and telling me not to even think of doing it. 


I don't know what to do! I don't know how it will effect my taxes this year. 
But I need out of the debt because I can't pay the damn bills because I don't have a job! And Pat can't help me stay afloat yet.


So frustrating.


I think I just stressed myself out. :( 
Gotta go.
xoxox

updates♥

There's so much updating I need to do :) Here's a brief overview:
We're moved into our new apartment in Jacksonville! We're getting tmo soon so we'll be moving all our stuff down here. Which can't come soon enough, we're sleeping on an air mattress and I only have a few pieces of clothing, same with Pat. We got a tv for the living room, so that's good. Now I'm not completely bored. We only have Pat's car at the moment so I can't go anywhere.
Update on my car: IT'S DONE!!! Finally! Butttt, of course my family is crazy and now the agreement my father and I had, has somehow changed. I think my MOTHER got into his head or something. So basically she, who isn't involved, is controlling what's going on. (Being that she and dad, mostly DAD, paid for the bill.) But it was money I had saved up to pay them back so really it was still my money. Ugh, confusing I know. The amount of the bill was over $5000 so when they say BMW is expensive to fix, they're right. But I know it was done right and it was done by a BMW dealership, so it's certified work. So yea, it may be more expensive to fix then say a Chevy, now that's it's fixed, it's like brand new. And some other cars you can't say that for. Plus the new head had really low miles on it as well as my engine, so I'm in good shape. EXCEPT, I found out my MOTHER is driving it?!?!?!?!?! I'm going to kill her I swear. And she's doing it behind my back, having Ash cover her and shit! I could kill her. 
--Then she says I need to get a job(she knows I have debt) understandably. But how can I get to work without a car?! She thinks Pat doesn't need a car to get to base or while he's at 'work'(on base) She's effing retarded. 


And she wants to move down here with us. After everything she's putting me through?! Hell NO! She can move down here on her own, and get her own damn apartment.


Ridiculous.


ANYWAY... back to updating:
love our apartment. It's a 2 bedroom/2 bath, sun room, living room, dining room, walk-in closets, 24-hr laundry center, gym, and business center, pet friendly. surrounding are is awesome. Tons of restaurants, TEXAS ROADHOUSE AND SONIC within a minute down the street!!!! Plazas, tons of stores, hotels, etc etc. There's a park behind us! Although I don't think it has trails or anything like home. But I did find out there is a nature trail down the road from us. So I'll have to check it out soon. The mall is really close. We're like a few minutes from the main gate. The weather is awesome. Sometimes it gets a little chilly, but not bad at all. Other than that, we haven't gone adventuring. :( Maybe since we're not going home for Thanksgiving(home is out of bounds for Pat) we'll do some adventuring during his libo. We're tight on money right now though... the way his pay checks fall and his few bills, it doesn't end up to good for us. Especially at the beginning of the month. Then because I'm not working and I got my last paycheck last week, I have to stay afloat on my bills... but it's going to be tight, probably too tight. And my credit already isn't great- I really can't afford to go default on my bills. But I'm also not going to make Pat's account go negative. It sucks... not sure what we're going to do. [I NEED MY CAR SO I CAN GO WORK!]


Well just wanted to update a little, I should be working on bills and cleaning right now :)


♥yous!